With increased mental health awareness, more people are exploring options of support, including therapy. But what actually happens in a therapy session? This post aims to demystify therapy, hopefully making you feel more informed and confident about what to expect.
What actually happens in a therapy session:
Many therapists will offer a free introductory meeting. This can last anywhere from 10-30 mins. It’s a chance for you and the therapist to see whether you might be a good fit or not. You can also ask any questions you may have about what actually happens in a therapy session.
It can be helpful to make the most of these free meetings. Arrange to meet with a few different therapists and see who you click with. As therapists, we know that we won’t be the right fit for everyone and so we won’t be offended if you choose someone else! Sometimes, we might recommend someone else or another service that we feel is better suited to your needs. If this happens, we will offer support and suggestions around this.
After deciding on your therapist, you will arrange a first appointment with them. During this, your therapist will complete some paperwork with you, going through important information such as confidentiality, cancellation policies etc. Afterwards, there will be some time for you to explain what you are struggling with.
Tip:
Do you ever feel so overwhelmed or nervous that you forget what you want to say? Before meeting with your therapist, it can be helpful to think of the main things that you are struggling with. It might be useful to write down a few bullet points of what you would like to focus on during your sessions together.
What actually happens in a therapy session depends on your therapist’s style or approach. However, it usually involves exploring, understanding, and processing whatever you are struggling with. Your therapist will empathise and validate your feelings without judgement. They will also provide an impartial perspective on your experience. This can be helpful to make you aware of any patterns of behaviour, thinking or relating that you have. By becoming more aware of your ‘blind spots’, in a supportive environment, you can deepen your understanding of yourself and others. Consequently, you can work towards making positive changes in your life.
What does not happen in a therapy session:
Unlike what’s in the movies, a therapist is not some ‘all-knowing’ person who will provide their expert opinion on you. They will not tell you what to do or what you are doing wrong. Although therapy can feel serious at times, it is much more relaxed than it may seem on the TV. Therapy should be a place where you feel listened to and accepted for who you are. You should feel safe and supported to explore whatever you are struggling with.
Tips for introductory meetings and first appointments
Use these to decide how you feel with your therapist and whether you can see yourself working with them. Therapy should feel challenging, but in a supportive way. It should feel like your therapist is open to hearing your experience and validating what you are going through. Whilst it can take some time for trust to develop, you will get a sense after meeting them whether this feels possible or not. The good news is, if they don’t feel like a good fit, you can look for someone else!
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